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Are you a Betty or a Veronica?

April 8, 2010

So do you think you’re more like Betty or like Veronica – in the bedroom? Or is it more like what Jerry Hall (Mick Jagger’s ex) said, “a woman needs to be a cook in the kitchen, and a whore in the bedroom”? Or do you fall somewhere in between, or somewhere else? You may recall the hubbub last summer when Archie, “the world’s oldest [redheaded] teenager” ended up proposing to Veronica. I’m sure you recall the love triangle between him, Betty and Veronica – poor Archie could never decide whom he loved more! So was anyone surprised that Archie would be proposing to Veronica? I was not surprised by this at all. Guys do like the bad girls (and face it ladies we sometimes prefer the bad boys too)! It seems, however, that the world empathizes with the good girl – people were writing letters of encouragement to Betty! This is why it can be beneficial to be a “Betty” to the world, and a “Veronica” in the bedroom.

That all being said, here are some tips from my book, Great Sex For Hard Times on how to be a Veronica in the bedroom.

Tip 1: Shower with your mate
When : Especially great for when the kids are at home, but you are craving some alone time. When you are menstruating.

How : You don’t have to make love in the shower, but washing each other is great foreplay, great for intimacy building and great for private time without the kids. If using silicone lubricant, which doesn’t wash away with water, be extra careful that you don’t slip.

Why: For married couples with children, finding time to spend together can be a challenge. The shower can offer them the chance to be naked and alone together, which will help them maintain their passion and intimacy, while avoiding the need to hire a babysitter. You don’t always have to have intercourse while or after sharing the shower, although not a bad idea, just being able to share that intimate time together will deepen your connection which leads to greater sex. For most women, having their period puts a damper on sexual play so sex in the shower is the perfect answer – no mess!! And even more than that, it creates an extra layer of excitement and enticement, almost making it something to look forward to.

Tip 2: Use a tie as a blindfold to drive your partner wild
When: This is a perfect way to welcome your lover home after a long day at the office.

How: When your lover comes home, take his tie off and wrap it around his head like a blindfold covering his eyes, and tie it snugly. If your lover doesn’t wear a tie, you can be wearing one or a scarf when he comes home, and use this to cover his eyes. With your partner blinded, lean him against a wall or across a couch, and grab his hands and hold them over his head. Now you can start kissing him and exploring his body with your other hand and whisper in his ear seductively “Do you want more of this?” and see where it takes you.

Why : Without his ability to see and to grab you with his hands, his other senses will be enhanced dramatically. His awareness of what you are doing to him with your hands and your tongue will overwhelm him. He will be putty in your hands as all he can do is submit to the pleasure that you are giving him. Even men like to be ‘taken’ on occasion.

Tip 3: Experiment with lap dances at an exotic club that welcomes couples, before inviting someone else into your sexual relationship.
When : This is for couples that have discussed, or are entertaining the possibility of having a threesome.

How :Take your lover to an exotic dance club. Have a couple of drinks to get warmed up and enjoy the dancers. When you are ready, pick out a dancer and have her give your partner a lap dance. Discuss how you each feel afterwards. Honesty is the key here. Then, if you are both willing, select a dancer to give your lover a lap dance. Chat about how it made you feel to see your partner with someone else. Did it turn you on? Were you mad with jealousy? Was your partner turned on, jealous or simply curious?

Why: This is a great way to find out if having a threesome is going to work in your relationship. It allows you to experience what it feels like to watch your partner with someone else, and vice versa, without actually going through with it and potentially damaging friendships or marriages. I don’t ever recommend threeways with family members. Simply too much emotion to make that work well. The honest communication afterwards is critical. If you were both turned on by what happened then you can feel a lot better about pursuing a threesome. If one or both of you were uncomfortable, then you should reconsider the threesome and remember, fantasies are often best kept in the mind and are wonderful when whispered in the heat of passion into your lover’s ears….

Whether you’re a Betty or a Veronica, enjoy these tips and have some great sex.


Kim Switnicki, ACC
Sex Educator, Author, Speaker and Transformational Sex Coach


Laughter & Sex

April 5, 2010

On a funny note, “what do sex and laughter have in common?” Turns out they are equal in many things! Both release hormones that help us to relax, boost the immune system, and help to alleviate pain. What better way is there to stay healthy and happy than by having a partner who makes you laugh AND helps you burn a few calories in the bedroom? A few being about 150-200 calories during a passionate love making session! For more information on the benefits of sex and laughter check out this article.


Kim Switnicki, ACC
Sex Educator, Author, Speaker and Transformational Sex Coach

Illness and Intimacy

March 29, 2010

On Tuesday, April 6th, Kim will be sharing some of her thoughts and ideas in relation to prostate cancer and how to include intimacy back into your life in a presentation called “Illness & Intimacy” with the Qualicum Beach/Parksville/Oceanside Prostate Cancer Support Group.

This group is an active prostate cancer support group that serves the entire Oceanside area.  It is ideal for newly diagnosed and post treatment men & their family members.  Everyone is welcome.

Join us to share experiences, thoughts, acquire current information, or just sit back and listen.

Meetings are held the first Tuesday of every month.
7:00 pm at “The Gardens”
650 Berwick North, Qualicum Beach

RSVP and questions: Contact Court Brooker at (250) 752-7489 or


Kim Switnicki, ACC
Sex Educator, Author, Speaker and Transformational Sex Coach

West Coast Women’s Show this Weekend

March 5, 2010

A special opportunity for all you lovely Vancouver Island ladies looking to stimulate your sex life. This weekend (March 6th &7th) I will be participating in the always great West Coast Women’s Show at Beban Park (

In addition to my booth (see below for show specials!), I will be speaking on Saturday March 6 at 3pm. Come and listen to find out how to “Bring ‘Sexy’ Back to Your Warm, ‘Comfortable’ Marriage”. Drop by the booth across from the food lounge to say ‘hi’, and enter our draw to win a fabulous prize package including a free spot in my upcoming 2-part tele-class on Unlocking Your Sexual Code to Bring Your Sexy Back!

Though I’ve just had shoulder surgery and will still be on pain meds, I will be presenting on this very important topic.  If you are in the Nanaimo area I’d encourage you to come out and pick up the great details at my book and many others.  There will be lots of door prizes and free speakers!  Plus, I’ll have other goodies available.

You can also get a signed copy of my latest book, Great Sex For Hard Times if you haven’t picked one up at your local book store or Save On Foods in Nanaimo (yes they sell books too).  There are lots of tips in this book to help bring your sexy back into your marriage – check out for more.
Keep the Valentine’s Day glow glowing with three of my own products and three specially selected Lioness items at amazing West Coast Women’s Show prices:

  • Jumpstart unlocking your Sexual Code with my G-Spot Playguide: $19.95 – $10 savings
  • Get your life back with my Bladder Freedom Program (DVD, Audio CD, and workbook): $24.95 – $10 savings
  • Discover what REALLY turns you on with my Deluxe Lioness Feather Game: $13.95 – $6 savings
  • Pick up my favourite, a G-Spot Vibrator: $19.95 – $10 savings
  • Who could go anywhere without fabulous Flavoured Forplay Succulent Lubricants: $19.95 (this is a ‘stock-up now’ price)
  • And finally, many of you know and love the Micro-Tingler: only $29.95 – $10 savings!

This is sure to be a great show, one you won’t want to miss so grab a few girlfriends and come on out. If you would like discounted admission tickets ($2 off), email me and I’ll set you up (limit 4 per person).


Kim Switnicki, ACC

Sex Educator, Author, Speaker and Transformational Sex Coach

Happy New Year – Ready for Great Sex?

January 4, 2010

Sensual and erotic sex is a powerful enhancement to life. I believe that every adult should experience authentic, honest and real sexual pleasure in whatever way works best for them. As this new year unfolds I invite you to do 3 things to help you create a fantastic and sensual new you in the new year:

  1. Consider something different you did last year that helped you feel really super sexy and carry if forward to this year. Even if it was buying a new nightie or tossing a ratty old one. What was one positive and sensual experience that you’d like to bring forward with you into 2010 as a reminder of what can be?
  2. What do you challenge yourself to do differently in 2010 to add romance back into your life in an even more significant way than ever before?
  3. How can you truly be in service to your lover, while still pleasing your truest self, in a way that you know will make he or she melt in your arms and will be immensely valued as loving, sensual and erotic. Now make plans to go and do it!

Put some conscious attention on your erotic energy and watch yourself grow even more erotic (and confident!) as the year unfolds. Welcome to 2010 and may you go forth in sensual splendor!

Kim Switnicki, ACC
Sex Coach at and

Wishes for a Sensual Season

December 20, 2009

It’s that festive time of year where people are rushing around doing last minute preparations, buying last minute cards and gifts and making last minute social plans.

Don’t add your sex life to the last minute list too. I recently manned (or is it personned?) a Salvation Army Christmas Kettle ringing my bells and wishing folks a Merry Christmas as they dropped in their donations. This is a busy time of year for me as well, and though I may grumble a wee bit about how much work there is to be done still, I volunteer a few shifts each year knowing it will make me feel great. And each shift does the trick! Taking a break from my own business and life to help others is a very rewarding experience as I’m sure most of you know. I catch people with eye contact, ringing my bells, dancing a jig or simply by saying hello to get their attention. I love the smiles I can bring to the scowling rushing faces that go by at the grocery store where I like to do my shift. The store has holiday music, I’m under cover in case it rains or snows and I know I’m cheering up the folks who smile back at me, take the time to stop and rummage around in their pockets for change and drop it in the bowl knowing they are helping those less fortunate.

I was thinking about how this applies to our sex lives as well. When life gets harried, we tend to let our romantic attentions drift. Have you ever had sex after a bit of a longish break because you were so busy to discover that WOW – this feels good! Perhaps you thought “We should do this more often because it sure is fun and I feel great right now!” I know I have.

Please take the time this holiday season to snuggle up with someone you care about, plant some kisses whether you see mistletoe or not and remember that sex as an expression of love is one of the most powerful ways to heal – not only for you and your partner, but for the whole world.


Kim Switnicki, ACC

Sex Educator, Speaker, Author, Transformational Sex Coach

Great Sex for Hard Times in 2010

December 20, 2009

If you want an incredible way to start the New Year – promise yourself you will make your sensual relationship and the pleasure of you and your partner a priority. Go to and pre-order your own copy of my new book. You’ll do wonders for your relationship.

Enjoy many Sexy Challenges, lots of cash saver tips, quickie tips and whole chapters on kissing, boosting your sex drive, talking dirty and flirty, some extreme fun, role playing, sex adventures, g-spot, positions, fantasy, toys, what to do with your mouth and so much more. You’ll wake up your sensuality and your partner will think someone new has moved into the bedroom!

BONUS:  As my New Years gift to you, send me your receipt from your online order of Great Sex for Hard Times before Jan 5 and you can start the New Year off with a bang. I will send you a one hour audio answering the top 10 questions I am asked most by women PLUS I’ll send you a special discount code for 15% off your next online order from Lioness. If you have only one sex book, this is the one every couple should have. What a great gift idea too!

Let me know what you think of it after you read it – you won’t be disapointed!



Christmas Funny

December 20, 2009

There is a factory in Northern Minnesota which makes the Tickle Me Elmo toys. The toy laughs when you tickle it under the arms.  Well, Lena is hired at The Tickle Me Elmo factory and she reports for her first day promptly at 8:00 am.
The next day at 8:45 am there is a knock at the Personnel Manager’s door. The Foreman throws open the door and begins to rant about the new Employee.
He complains that she is incredibly slow and the whole line is backing up, putting the entire production line behind schedule.
The Personnel Manager decides he should see this for himself, so the 2 men march down to the factory floor. When they get there the line is so backed up that there are Tickle Me Elmo’s all over the factory floor and they’re really beginning to pile up.
At the end of the line stands Lena surrounded by mountains of Tickle Me Elmo’s. She has a roll of plush red fabric and a huge bag of small marbles.  The 2 men watch in amazement as she cuts a little piece of fabric, wraps it around two marbles and begins to carefully sew the little package between Elmo’s legs.
The Personnel Manager bursts into laughter. After several minutes of hysterics he pulls himself together and approaches Lena .

“I’m sorry,” he says to her, barely able to keep a straight face, “but I think you misunderstood the instructions I gave you yesterday.  Your job is to give Elmo two test tickles.

Not Having Sex is Good for You

August 20, 2009

A lot of us feel compelled by the media etc. to have sex, sex and more sex because it’s so good for you.  I too speak of how great sex is for you and how it can improve your life.  However, the other end of the spectrum is not addressed often enough.  Listen in as Pam Edgar, host of Living for the Health Of It, chats with me about the idea of not having sex and how that too can actually be healthier for some people than having pressure and guilt added to the mix.  Pick up some tips on how to have open chats with your partner when you have stress, small kids, health issues or other cases where sex isn’t a priority or a good option for you at the time.  We also discuss how to regain sexual relationships after serious health issues where one party has been the care-giver.  It really is all about choice and free will and really trying to find your own Sexual Truth and honouring it.

Click here to listen.

Kim Switnicki on the Wayne & Jayne Radio Show

July 27, 2009

On June 22nd, I enjoyed chatting about great sex with Wayne & Jayne in the Kootenays on KBS radio.  I shared sexy tidbits about sexuality and intimacy.  Are you orgasmic?  Do you have quality sexual experiences?  Listen and learn what a difference these can make for you in your daily life!


Listen to this clip and find other helpful interviews CLICK HERE.