G-Spot with Partner and G-Spot Fluids

A client recently asked me about how to use her g-spot vibrator.  She has yet to find her g-spot with it and suspects that, maybe she just needs to relax a bit more since she doesn’t have any problem finding it with her hubby during intercourse.

She also inquired where the juices from a g-spot orgasm come from and, her juices from a g-spot orgasm sometimes  smell like urine.

When first experimenting with your g-spot, try doing it alone.  This will give you plenty of time to get used to the feeling and give you quality time to “train” your body to experience a g-spot orgasm. Keep in mind, however that not all women will experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation. Sometimes it takes a combination of several factors for you to “let go” and have this type of orgasm.

Experiment with different positions.  Try using your vibrator when you’re on your tummy, or sit up on your knees and bend forward, then approach yourself from behind.  If you are experiencing an orgasm when having intercourse, try that position as well.

Regarding female ejaculation, the liquid comes out of the urethral opening (where we urinate out of), not the vagina. You should also note that you can’t urinate and orgasm at the same time. There is a bladder sphincter that shuts down the bladder when you orgasm. If you have lax urinary muscles, you may have a bit of urine enter into the ejaculate stream that can cause a slight urine smell, but typically the fluid is not urine, nor is it vaginal fluid. It usually has a musky scent and is much thinner than vaginal fluid. The g-spot is actually an area of the urethral sponge (which surrounds the urethral tube) that swells upon sexual arousal. There are people (myself included) who believe that the g-spot is actually just an extension of the complex clitoral system.

I suggest you relax, have fun and try not to put too much pressure on yourself about what type of orgasm to have. Any orgasm is a good one in my book! Also, many satisfactory sexual experiences can be had with no orgasm at all. And, embrace, or at least don’t worry about, the fluids that come out of you – it’s all part of the experience.

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
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Vibrators 101

When women use vibrators, they usually concentrate on external clitoral stimulation. Since over 70% of us need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, that makes a lot of sense!

When preparing to use a vibrator for the first time, I suggest you make sure you have quiet uninterrupted time, perhaps a relaxing bath or shower and maybe even some candles to help set the mood. Romance yourself – you’re worth it! You may want to watch an erotic film or read some erotic letters or stories to help put you in the mood.

Turn it on its lowest setting (the best vibrators are multi-speed) and gently and slowly run it along your arms, legs, tummy and other commonly touched areas of your body. Perhaps even your face. Once you’re comfortable with the vibration sensation you can slowly begin to tease yourself lower on your tummy, perhaps on your inner thighs and slowly bring it closer to your clitoris. This is where your own intuitiveness and knowledge of your body come into play.

You will decide how much stimulation and exactly where it feels best.

You learn whether you want a slow circular motion or a hard pressure or a light back and forth flicking or even run it up and down the length of the clitoral glans. Explore and play and have fun. The clitoris has been magnificently created strictly for sexual pleasure – it is yours to have fun with!

If you don’t orgasm easily, you may find a harder, plastic vibrator works best. If you like the option of having penetration, then a softer jelly type that is more penis shaped may be what you want.

If you have any further questions about how to select your vibrator, I’m happy to help. Remember, we can be orgasmic until the day we die so keep on playing!