G-Spot with Partner and G-Spot Fluids

A client recently asked me about how to use her g-spot vibrator.  She has yet to find her g-spot with it and suspects that, maybe she just needs to relax a bit more since she doesn’t have any problem finding it with her hubby during intercourse.

She also inquired where the juices from a g-spot orgasm come from and, her juices from a g-spot orgasm sometimes  smell like urine.

When first experimenting with your g-spot, try doing it alone.  This will give you plenty of time to get used to the feeling and give you quality time to “train” your body to experience a g-spot orgasm. Keep in mind, however that not all women will experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation. Sometimes it takes a combination of several factors for you to “let go” and have this type of orgasm.

Experiment with different positions.  Try using your vibrator when you’re on your tummy, or sit up on your knees and bend forward, then approach yourself from behind.  If you are experiencing an orgasm when having intercourse, try that position as well.

Regarding female ejaculation, the liquid comes out of the urethral opening (where we urinate out of), not the vagina. You should also note that you can’t urinate and orgasm at the same time. There is a bladder sphincter that shuts down the bladder when you orgasm. If you have lax urinary muscles, you may have a bit of urine enter into the ejaculate stream that can cause a slight urine smell, but typically the fluid is not urine, nor is it vaginal fluid. It usually has a musky scent and is much thinner than vaginal fluid. The g-spot is actually an area of the urethral sponge (which surrounds the urethral tube) that swells upon sexual arousal. There are people (myself included) who believe that the g-spot is actually just an extension of the complex clitoral system.

I suggest you relax, have fun and try not to put too much pressure on yourself about what type of orgasm to have. Any orgasm is a good one in my book! Also, many satisfactory sexual experiences can be had with no orgasm at all. And, embrace, or at least don’t worry about, the fluids that come out of you – it’s all part of the experience.

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
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Pole Dancing

I saw a post on a social networking site that spoke negatively about Pole Dancing classes and how it feeds the exploitation of women. I felt compelled to comment so am also posting my reply here!

This topic is near and dear to me since I’m a sex and intimacy coach and my mission is to help women connect with their sensuality and achive their sexual potential – whatever that means for them. (AND I’m off to my pole dance class tonight!)

The owner of the studio where I take my classes has created a dance studio for women only with the express purpose of helping them to feel empowered. I offer workshops at the studio as it fits in with my passion of sexually empowering women.

It has been my experience, both personally and with clients, that connecting to your inner sensual self is IMPERATIVE if you want to be as successful in life AND in business as you possibly can. Our sexual energy is our life force or chi energy and keeps us vital and healthy and strong. It has even been proven that regular sexual activity with quality orgasms will help you live longer!

Confidence in one’s inner femaleness and feeling and being grounded in who we are as women is one of the most powerful things we can do to fully align with our purpose. We are female before we are mothers, daughters, co-workers, wives, teachers, etc. Fully connecting to our feminine power using such rituals as dance (being recorded far back in history) is tremendously affirming and empowering for many women who have been afraid or uncomfortable in their own skin.

Once we are truly comfortable with who we are as women, then we can stand tall, be more confident and grounded and we will emit a positive energy that men, women and children will be drawn to. We can watch as the law of attraction brings forth everything we need to then create the life we truly want and deserve to have.

I believe that pole dancing absolutely helps empower women. It’s purpose is not to connect with their inner slut (as had been suggested), though for some that may be exactly what they want or need, but to connect with their feminine power to be strong and vital like Mother earth, Mother Nature, Goddesses, etc. You can be the force that gives birth to your perfect life.

It will surely take a bit more than a few hours on the pole, but isn’t self and sexual empowerment an on-going journey with each step moving us forward to what we desire? For some women, this is a HUGE step and it can be tranforming for them and a shift can happen that PROPELS them forward. It can be truly amazing to be a witness to.

Again, these are my opinions and my intention is not to offend but merely to point out that it can be very empowering to connect with our sensual side indeed.

Let me know what you think!

Banning Adult Video and Sex Toy stores is counter-productive!

I can’t believe this is still happening!

In the Wednesday (June 13, 2007) copy of our “Daily News” here in Nanaimo there is a story about how the town of “Delta” in the lower mainland area of Vancouver is proposing to forbid the sale and rental of adult videos!

They’re calling them dirty movies and naughty products to start with which is really narrow minded and archaic if you ask me. It’s precisely this type of thinking (let alone law making!) that will keep us slipping back and not moving forward with ideas of healthy sexuality for our children. I’m not saying that our kids need to see adult movies, but the idea of limiting what people CHOOSE to see to help stimulate or arouse them in the comfort of their own homes seems very unjust.

I won’t even get into restricting the use of adult sex toys – don’t get me started on that!

Firstly, you have to be 18 to enter the store, the windows are not clear so you can’t see in if you’re walking by. You have choice to go in and see what they have. There are usually sections in adult stores indicating the specific areas of video (or DVD) interest also so you can go right to the section for ‘couples’ or ‘gay/lesbian’ or ‘anal’ or ‘large breasts’ or ‘inter-racial’ or ‘bisexual’ or whatever else your heart desires, or whatever else is desiring ;-)

For some people, they don’t feel COMFORTABLE going online to look for adult movies with the computer that their children use. The online sites can be nasty for loading your computer up with things you don’t want your kids to see whether you plan on downloading or not. You’ll notice I don’t have links to any other adult sites (at this time) since they generally will lead you to places where you can’t be sure your computer is safe.

There are, as Council member Robert Campbell pointed out, local cable providers offering ‘hard-core porn’ anyhow. What is the point in impairing someone’s right to own and operate a viable business? At least then, the buying public has a degree of control over the types of products that will be carried. I hardly think the people of Delta are looking for ’snuff’ films or bestiality or kiddie porn!

What is wrong with good old fashioned x-rated, titillating movies to add a little spice to the love lives of ADULTS who are CONSENTING???

Even Council member Vicki Huntington admitted they were being ‘prudes’ so she convinced them to add the “production of adult videos” to the ban. So much for having a little sexy fun with your camcorder to arouse your partner while you’re out of town – if they have their way, at least if you live in Delta, you’ll be breaking the law in your quest for keeping your marriage together!

Enough ranting for today – until next time,

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki