IPPY awards in NYC for G-Spot PlayGuide

My G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven is now an IPPY Award winning book! I recently accepted the silver medal in the sexuality/relationships category at Providence NYC in Manhattan. Here is a link to a couple of pictures

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=101742&id=589186560&l=7b0a7dc995

and here is a link to a video of me accepting the award and having fun with two girl friends (Amanda Mitchell and Dr. Susan Biali) who joined me for the fun and festivities. Link one and link two.

Many people contributed to this book becoming an award winning work, and if you pick up a copy the G-Spot PlayGuide (available at http://www.lionessforlovers.com/pages/g-spot-promo.htm) you can read all about who they are. It is always a team effort when something so wonderful happens and because of all of us, all of you have the opportunity to get to G-Spot Heaven!

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
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Sexually Self-Confident You?

I’ve often been asked, “Is sexual self-confidence important?“

In a word… YES!  For many women, having sexual self-confidence changes their entire outlook, not only on themselves and their relationships but in their businesses, careers and their whole life.  Let’s explore how you feel right now.  Take a minute to rate your confidence in the bedroom, with 1 being so little confidence that you avoid sex at all costs and 10 being that you feel as hot and sexy as Cher looks.

Surprised by your rating?  Even if it’s high, do you want to increase that number?  Start by first acknowledging that you want to improve this area of your life!  Simply putting yourself on notice can make a difference in how you look at your sensual side.  Be aware of the things you do that are sensual and give you a boost of sexual self-confidence.  Make a commitment to yourself to increase that number.  Wouldn’t it be amazing to have higher sexual self-confidence by Valentine’s Day?  I invite you to follow up that commitment by reading the free chapter excerpt from my new book, the G-Spot PlayGuide.

After you’ve read it, I invite you to try the Sexy Mission and the Celebration in it.  If you choose not to, that’s okay.  While you may not be ready to take the first steps just yet, I ask you: If you do nothing now and nothing different in the future about your sexual skills or confidence, where will your sex-life be in 3 months, in 6 months, and even in a year.  Is that what you want for yourself?  Don’t you deserve more?

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
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G-Spot with Partner and G-Spot Fluids

A client recently asked me about how to use her g-spot vibrator.  She has yet to find her g-spot with it and suspects that, maybe she just needs to relax a bit more since she doesn’t have any problem finding it with her hubby during intercourse.

She also inquired where the juices from a g-spot orgasm come from and, her juices from a g-spot orgasm sometimes  smell like urine.

When first experimenting with your g-spot, try doing it alone.  This will give you plenty of time to get used to the feeling and give you quality time to “train” your body to experience a g-spot orgasm. Keep in mind, however that not all women will experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation. Sometimes it takes a combination of several factors for you to “let go” and have this type of orgasm.

Experiment with different positions.  Try using your vibrator when you’re on your tummy, or sit up on your knees and bend forward, then approach yourself from behind.  If you are experiencing an orgasm when having intercourse, try that position as well.

Regarding female ejaculation, the liquid comes out of the urethral opening (where we urinate out of), not the vagina. You should also note that you can’t urinate and orgasm at the same time. There is a bladder sphincter that shuts down the bladder when you orgasm. If you have lax urinary muscles, you may have a bit of urine enter into the ejaculate stream that can cause a slight urine smell, but typically the fluid is not urine, nor is it vaginal fluid. It usually has a musky scent and is much thinner than vaginal fluid. The g-spot is actually an area of the urethral sponge (which surrounds the urethral tube) that swells upon sexual arousal. There are people (myself included) who believe that the g-spot is actually just an extension of the complex clitoral system.

I suggest you relax, have fun and try not to put too much pressure on yourself about what type of orgasm to have. Any orgasm is a good one in my book! Also, many satisfactory sexual experiences can be had with no orgasm at all. And, embrace, or at least don’t worry about, the fluids that come out of you – it’s all part of the experience.

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
Pick up your Free Report on Top 10 Ways to be a Sexier, more Confidant Woman www.lionessforlovers.com/pages/sign-up-for-sexy-ezine.htm

How to Regain Sexual Confidence after Years with No Sex

Another question from a concerned 50 year old woman:

Dear Kim,

I heard you on Alissa Kriteman (podcast) and found the talk really inspiring.

I am 50 years old and was in a sexless marriage for almost 20 years. I was previously very comfortable with my sexuality. After once pursuing me relentlessly, my former husband rejected me sexually after the birth of our first child, while at the same time making it clear that he fancied other women.

My children are now grown up and I feel that I need to venture out in pursuit of passion.  However my confidence is shot. I have no problem attracting men but I am really nervous in bed with them going near my vagina. I attempted penetrative sex once and it was really painful as I was completely dry. That experience left me feeling even more arid and past it. I am very much on a spiritual path and in search of sacred sexuality.

Could you offer some inspirational advice on how to make myself more confident with my body and how to prepare myself for a sexual encounter? What are the best lubricants?

ANSWER

Thank you so much for contacting me – I’m glad you were inspired by the show!  What you experienced with your husband after your child was born is common, though not often spoken of. Not a very nice thing to happen to you, for sure.

First of all – good for you for wanting to get out again and experience the pleasure that you deserve and that you know from experience you can have! Women often shut down permanently so “yay” for you for going for it.

As we age, we lubricate less, even if we are aroused. I think a good water soluble lubricant is the greatest sexual empowerment accessory you can have. I’m 43 and always have a bottle handy just to make things even more slippery. I’m a huge fan of Forplay Succulents lubricant since it is naturally flavoured with no artificial sweeteners (they can irritate the vaginal walls). You can see some of the flavour options here:

http://lionessforlovers.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=4&products_id=20

I suggest you allow yourself time to really re-connect with your sensual side with real quality time for you to self-pleasure and get to know the caresses and touches your body really wants. A long, hot bath while you caress yourself and really take the time to appreciate all of your curves and dimples and wisdom marks and scars all over your body can be very empowering. They ALL come together to create the amazing, feminine power that is you!

Try this after the bath. Look in the mirror at your naked beautiful self and really be gentle and loving. Look deep into your eyes and seek out your heart and soul and find the wisdom that is there inside of you right now. Ask your higher self to offer you some words of advice to really help you get through this next phase of your journey. Ask it what you need to do next to more easily embrace your sacred sexuality. Allow yourself the time and space to be open to the answers – whatever the answers are, know that they are absolutely right for you right now.

I have an audio program called the Sacred Sexy Circle. The CD is currently included in my new G-Spot PlayGuide which is 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven and you don’t even need a partner. It was created for a woman like you who wants to find that deeper connection to her inner sensual and sexual self so she can experience all of the sexual satisfaction and intimacy that she not only secretly craves but deserves. The link is here: http://www.lionessforlovers.com/pages/g-spot-promo.htm

I’m not trying to sell these to you but merely let you know they are there as inexpensive tools to help you on your path to feel more confident so that you can have the love life you want.

If you sign up on the home page at www.lionessforlovers.com you can get a free e-book on how to be sexier and more confident. Perhaps try that first and see if any of those tips offer you any inspiration. I am also available for coaching one-on-one, but you may want to explore these other options first. I suspect you may surprise yourself. You are taking lovely steps already by a) listening to the call and b) writing to me. You’re inspiring to me! Keep on your path – it will be so incredibly worth it. Good luck to you!

Passionately,

Kim Switnicki, ACC, ECPC
Sex Educator, Speaker, Intimacy Coach

Author of “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!”
Pick up your Free Report on Top 10 Ways to be a Sexier, more Confidant Woman www.lionessforlovers.com/pages/sign-up-for-sexy-ezine.htm

Where Is The Male G-Spot?

This is quite often a mystery, to not only a lot of women, but for men as well! Basically, the male g-spot is the prostate gland in a man. The prostate is a walnut sized and shaped organ that is responsible for sperm production.

When stimulated (gently), it can bring on powerful sexual sensation and can lead some men to orgasm without any penis stimulation at all!

The easiest way to find it is by inserting a LUBRICATED finger gently into the anus and aimed slightly toward the tummy. Toys for the anus can come later when you are both used to the experience. (Our Microtingler is perfect for this purpose!)

I don’t recommend that you force the issue as some men are not at all receptive to anal play. If they are able to get over their concerns about it, you can have a whole new area of lovemaking available to you.

As always, trust, respect and communication are essential to a pleasurable, erotic experience.